Thank You. There, see? I can say it.
Actually, I say thank you all the time.
“Here’s your large Diet Coke!” “THANK YOU!”
“Would you like another prosecco?” “Why yes, thank you!”
“Cow, here’s an unlimited black AmEx! Go have fun!” “THANK YOU, FRUG!”
“Hey, I love your boots!’
“These? OMG, they are so old! I just found them in the back of my closet.”
“You look great tonight!”
“OMG, you’re joking, right? Look at these wrinkles? And my hair is all wrong!”
“Love that sweater!”
“Got it at Target on clearance and it’s covered in cat hair and I’m hideous and LOOK AWAY!”
Compliments. Can you accept one?? Why is it so difficult?
Was with a group of friends last weekend and I was stumbling over the “Love your boots” thing and she said “Just say thank you.” And I just stared at her cluelessly. Just Say Thank You.
Part of it feels rude. Like, if you say “thank you“, the conversation is over abruptly. “Love your boots” “Thank You” and then it’s *crickets* whereas, “Love your boots” and “I bought them 10 years ago” can lead to “Really? Where did you get them?” and “What brand is that?” etc.
And a compliment on your appearance?? Eep. It feels too much like agreement. “Love your hair!” “Thank you” –>> That’s right. My hair is stellar and I am gorgeous and I think I’m fabulous! Can’t let that kind of self-esteem out, right?? It seems arrogant to me. Maybe it’s an American thing?
Technically, yes, just say thank you. I’m working on it. Accepting compliments without bring up myriad flaws still makes me feel queasy though.
Anyone else feel like that???